1. Quit contrasting yourself with others.
Actually, other individuals are most likely contrasting themselves with you. Additionally, when you are contrasting yourself with another person, you are most likely just observing piece of the entire picture and filling in the rest with a considerable measure of presumptions.
You can honestly never know what a person’s life is really like by seeing them from the outside so you can never truly compare yourself to anyone else.
If you are making an excuse to not try something new because you are comparing yourself to others who are experts in the field, remember that they once stood in your shoes and were able to get where they are today.
2. Stop fearing the unknown.
Sure, things may go wrong. But, things may also go very right. The unknown can be scary, but that does not mean that it is necessarily bad.
So many good things can come in your life from taking chances into areas that are unknown to you. You can’t just assume that anything that is unknown to you is going to turn out to be a negative thing.
3. Stop blaming others for your misfortune.
One of the most destructive things you can do in life is to play the blame game. It is the basis for a considerable amount of frustration and unhappiness in people’s lives.
The blame game entails blaming someone else for something that happened to you that was undesirable, and staying convinced that it was someone else’s fault instead of being proactive and making the necessary changes to resolve a situation. This often stems from irrational thinking and is not healthy for you or for the person you are blaming.
4. Take responsibility.
There are two components of taking responsibility. One is accepting personal responsibility and the other is accepting indirect responsibility.
Taking personal responsibility refers to taking ownership of your own actions and their consequences. If you are unable to accept responsibility for your actions or mistakes, it is likely very hard to gain the respect of other people.
Indirect responsibility involves moving beyond yourself to take necessary action to help other people. Having this type of responsibility reveals a factor of your character.
However, some may think of an excuse to not help someone else, perhaps assuming that someone else will do it. This is not a good way to gain the respect of other people.
5. Take action.
Part of taking action is taking risks. You may have big plans that you can imagine are great in theory, but never plan on actually following through with.
Stop making excuses and take the action that is needed to achieve the goals you want in life and create success for yourself.
6. Set small, attainable goals.
Setting large goals may seem so overwhelming that you don’t even know where to start. Further, you may start working towards your long-term goal and find that you are not getting anywhere fast and give up.
Instead, break down your ultimate goal into many smaller goals that are attainable so you can make progress that you can actually see. Every time you meet one of these smaller goals, you will be more motivated to continue on to your ultimate goal.
For example, let’s say you aren’t much of a runner, but you want to run a marathon. You may start out by running one mile and then think that running 26.2 miles is an unattainable goal and you should just quit. Rather than starting with the ultimate goal of running a marathon, start with aiming to complete a 5k.
This is an attainable goal for someone who does not have a lot of running experience. Once that goal is complete, move up to a 10k. Keep increasing this goal until you reach your ultimate goal of finishing a marathon.
7. Learn from your mistakes.
Not only can you learn what not to do when you make a mistake, but you can also analyze what went wrong and figure out how you can do it better in the future.
All mistakes are learning opportunities, no matter how big or small the mistake may be. Often, trial and error is the best way to work something out.
8. Don’t focus on your weaknesses.
If you have a few weaknesses, be aware of them, but do not focus on them. Rather, focus on your strengths and the things that you have to offer that other people do not.
You can even delegate certain tasks to other people to help you bridge the gap in places where you know you will not be able to do a perfect job.
9. You have the power to change.
You do. You just have to be motivated to do so. You can’t feel defeated or complacent with your life just being “okay.” Without making excuses, you have the power to change anything in your life.
If you don’t feel like you can do it on your own, seek help from other people in order to achieve your goals and get the results you are looking for. Never think that you simply cannot change an aspect of your life.
When you are faced with a challenge, do you feel like you can handle it or do you come up with some excuses to avoid it?
Perhaps you have a tendency to doubt your own abilities to rise to the challenge and overcome the hardships that life throws your way?
Having self-efficacy means you have a strong belief in your own abilities to handle various situations. This can play an important role in how you feel about yourself and whether or not you are able to achieve the results you want in life.
11. Visualize your success.
Literally visualize what it would look like and feel like to achieve your goal and have success. Doing this can add some motivation to your agenda, as you will want to actually be able to feel those feelings of accomplishment.
12. It’s ok, you’re not perfect.
The truth is, no one is perfect. Also, no one expects you to be perfect.
Accept your mistakes and know that other people are willing to accept your mistakes as well, especially if you own up to them and learn from them. This is something that happens to everyone, even the most successful people.
13. It’s a habit that can be changed.
If you are used to coming up with excuses to get out of doing things, this is a habit that can be changed. Think about what you are actually trying to avoid when you make an excuse. Are you avoiding doing extra work? Or maybe you don’t want to give up your free time or move around your priorities?
Try to figure out what you are really trying to get away from and address it head on. You can stop making excuses and start getting the results you want if you are able to have a clear vision of what you want for the future.
With regards to your own particular future, rationalizing is a propensity that is constraining your capacity to meet your maximum capacity. It can keep you wasting your time for quite a long time without gaining any ground and lead you to sentiments of disappointment with life or an absence of reason.
On the off chance that you accuse other individuals for your own behavior, this can prompt terrible results including building up an awful notoriety with partners and associates.
You may take this to the contrary outrageous and give other individuals kudos for work that you really did. If so, you will probably be asking why you are not gaining ground toward accomplishing your objectives.